There’s been times in my life when I felt I should have been making more progress than what I was seeing. For me such seasons compel deep introspection and objective inquisition.
I don’t like excuses so I make efforts to demystify things when I find my performance out of par with my expectations. However, one important thing I’ve learned is that the absence of immediate physical evidence does not always mean nothing is happening in your life.
Things may just be in the process, and you need to give it time.
– Make sure you’re doing the right things.
– Check your methodology, ideology, and practices.
– Be sure you’re doing things right, and if yes, then keep at it.
A seed develops roots before it produces a shoot.
It’s important to like the person you will spend your entire life with, but sometimes we lock down that ‘liking’ to a set of outward features like height, complexion, and size. While these aren’t bad at all, a person is much more.
You are very likely to miss the best that a person is if you can’t look at them beyond the outward. Marry the person, not their skin. Nothing on the outward can significantly contribute to success in marriage. After all said and done, marital success will depend on the person; their spirit, thought processes, mindset, knowledge and attitude.
It’s not wrong to desire certain outward features, but be willing to make adjustments as occasion demands.
It may surprise you how much you will come to like someone after you connect with their persona. Some things will cease to matter once a bond is struck.
Before you say NO, try to know the person, keep an open mind, and think twice. Don’t shortchange yourself. Take off the roadblocks from your marital pathway.
If you have never ran errands for your wife then the loyalty of your ‘husbandity’ is in question.
The interesting part is when you get a call, “Babe can you please buy milk on your way back?” Okay babe, no worries, see you soon. Then after 30 minutes, you receive another call, “babe can you add water and some bread to what you’re buying?” Okay babe, I will do.
Then just when you’re close to the house you get another call, “babe please, I forgot to add tomatoes”. It’s an unhappy ending if you have to turn around and drive all the way to get it, but sometimes it’s a happy ending when your response to that last call is “I’m at the door, please open up”.
If you don’t run errands for a beautiful wife, who will? It is sweet to be a husband.
Determine to be a person of integrity and highly-rated substance; one whose character is stable and dependable, one of pleasant personality, whose friends admire and trust; a person constantly striving to improve. This is my aspiration.