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Little gestures of care and affection go a long way, sometimes much more than you can imagine.

It’s important to value those who go out of their way to check on you and just be there for you. Don’t just be a recipient, endeavour to reciprocate too. Selfishness and insensitivity are major reasons why people lose their friends.

When affection is one-sided, it becomes lopsided, then of course it ends up crashing.

Proverbs 18:24 says:

A man that hath friends must shew himself friendly: and there is a friend that sticketh closer than a brother.

Nothing beats love that is pure, and care that is genuine.

Show some love today. Show someone you care.
Love is life.
Love is soothing.

One of the biggest enemies of love is selfishness and a sense of entitlement.

Allow people to love you how they can, as they find opportunity. There’s a big challenge with despising an act of love because you have your personal definition of how you must be loved.

You can’t stereotype the benevolence and goodwill people wish to extend to you.

Some people never acknowledge the contributions of others, because they think they deserved to receive more. Love is a gift and it is unfair to always want to choose how it should be served to you. This is the reason many sacrifices go unappreciated.

What you call ‘little’ may be someone’s sacrifice at the time it was given to you.

It is an error to create a personal budget on another person’s pocket. Truth is, you never can tell how much more lies ahead when we are thankful for what is at hand.

Don’t close your love-doors.
Don’t lose your goodwill.
Don’t lose your friends.

Laziness is not the absence of ability. It is the unwillingness to generate productive activity from the ability you possess. It is the lack of commitment to quality, and consistency.

Many people feel offended when they are called lazy; this is because they know they can do what they are reprimanded for, and sometimes they can do that thing very well.

Truth is, the only verification of ability is performance.

We will continue to be doubted until we deliver on the job. You must get on a personal crusade against idleness, shoddy work, tardiness, and slack dealing. Kill mediocrity. Learn to motivate yourself. Represent yourself properly by your high performance.

Be committed, and consistent.
It’s time to act.
You are more!

The same things that endeared you to your spouse before you got married can become your biggest source of concern if you’re not careful. It may be beauty, intelligence, excellent social skills, or even generosity.

The comfort, and security that draws its joys from the selfish control of the other person is unhealthy, unfair, and destructive. Bad as it is, you can’t always blame it all on the ‘controller’, the control victim is sometimes the architect of their own troubles.

I believe there is a discretion we must have, and a mode of operation, as married people that is different from the pre-marriage era. You can’t be married and be doing things like an available single who has nothing at stake. This sometimes is where trust starts to get wounded, and peace is compromised.

A married person needs a sense of restrain, maturity, accountability, and wisdom in their dealings.

And for those still searching, when the attractions in a person begin to take your breath away, be careful also to measure the character, balance, and self control of that person as well as yours, and of course deal with your insecurities if any.

You can’t marry someone to own and imprison them at the detriment of their own wellbeing.

And of course a married person needs to live up to the responsibilities and discretion befitting of that status.
Be all that you are, but maturity, wisdom, and caution must never be left out of the equation.